Everyone seeks Love. But unfortunately, Unloving often gets in the way. Unloving comes out in many ways – self-hatred, disbelief that God can love us, which harms our spiritual life, and much more. Let’s explore this a bit in this blog.
Last time I shared some of my favorite concepts about God’s Love as seen in the Bible. But sometimes those concepts get stuck somewhere between the eyes and the mind and one has a hard time believing it. Or between the mind and the heart, making it easy to give lip service to something that one can’t quite grasp internally.
What happens here? What stops us from truly believing in God’s love?
To make things easier, I’m going to use the term “Unloving.” Unloving, simply put, is the inability to give Love or to receive Love.
Unloving can keep you away from the truth of the Bible, preventing your eyes from seeing it. This can happen when someone has thrown out God’s Word, and chosen not to even look at what God says about them or about Himself.
It can bring disbelief so that even if one sees the Bible, they will not believe it. Perhaps there has been some trauma in one’s past and the person has been unable to see God’s Love through that experience, so they have chosen to disbelieve the Bible and His Love.
Unloving can block the inner understanding even if one intellectually believes what the Bible says. If your inner understanding of Love is blocked you may feel that God loves everyone else, but not you. God takes care of and looks after everyone else, but He doesn’t care about you. Others will have their need supplied, their relationships restored, physical healing, prayer answered, etc., but not you. If you’ve been abused in any way, Unloving is undoubtedly having a heyday in your life.
Unloving not only prevents one from absorbing God’s love, but it can also bring Self-Hatred, Self-Bitterness, Self-Rejection, etc., along with it. Ever have a time when you could not forgive yourself for something you’ve done? Ever hated yourself? Thought less of yourself than what God thinks of you (and that’s considerably much)? That’s Unloving. And this happens not only when someone has been abused, but also when someone has done something in their past that they are ashamed of.
Not only can Unloving block God’s Love, and keep self-hatred, etc., going in one’s mind, but it also tampers with one’s ability to experience Love from other people, and to give Love to them. One only has to look at the divorce rate these days to see that Unloving has been very busy in marriages. It has also been at work between parents and children, between families, friends, even strangers. Ever heard of “road rage?” That’s Unloving at it’s “best.”
There is a way out of Unloving! It’s simple, but takes real effort. I’ll share part of the solution in my next blog, but my program “Freedom From Unloving” goes into far more detail than is possible to share on this blog. It will give you knowledge and tools to move out of the darkness of Unloving and into the light of God’s Love, and to take your journey all the way to the finish. You can try it out by receiving (free) 5 one-page excerpts from the program. Just click here.
Now it’s your turn! How has Unloving been part of your life? In what ways has God broken through this barrier for you?